Saturday 18 April 2015

FORGIVENESS can be so very hard to do!

Forgiveness can be so very hard to do...!
Just read this quote by 'rawforbeauty.com':
'The first to apologize is the bravest.
The first to forgive is the strongest.
And, the first to forget is the happiest!'

What amazing words and oh so very true.....
Apologizing, forgiving and forgetting are PRECIOUS PRIVILEGES! 
This is so because...
in having the strength, grace and kindness to, blame no one and expect nothing but instead,
do something, is as a balm to your soul 
but to take on board the behavior of others will only add to the burdens within us.
APOLOGIZING is letting go of the grudge, hatred and resentment which are like a worms inside an apple - they will only eat you up inside! It is a brave step to say sorry (which does not mean that you are necessarily the one in the wrong or at fault only that... you are sorry about the misunderstanding, action or words having occurred!)  
FORGIVING and especially being the first to forgive, shows a wisdom and strength beyond compare (you do not have to forgive because you were either right or wrong that does not matter - you forgive to find a peace within and to heal the wound!) 
FORGETTING is the only real step for moving on in your life and only then can happiness be in reach (forgetting does not mean that you condone any action or words... but it means allowing you the freedom to carry on - a space without irons and chains to weigh you down)
so my friends... Apologize, forgive and forget!
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FORGIVENESS, such an easy word to say but oh... such a hard thing to do!
Why is that so? I do not have the answers and I do not think that anyone else does either!
FORGIVENESS, such an easy word to say and oh... such a necessary thing to do!
Why is that so? I know it is so because without FORGIVENESS... either SELF-FORGIVENESS or FORGIVENESS of others... you cannot love!
As, one cannot truly FORGIVE unless they truly love and one, cannot truly love unless they truly FORGIVE!
It is necessary to not only forgive others but learn to forgive ourselves and yes, sometimes it can be a learning experience!
It is necessary to not only forgive ourselves for the wrong that we have done but also for what we have not done that was the right thing to do.
It is necessary to not only forgive ourselves for the words that we have spoken and also for those unspoken words that should have been said!
If the scarred mountain can forgive those who scarred her, and can cover up the scars with wild flowers, grass and tree should not you, who are worthy, be able to cover your own scars with fresh forgiveness, kindness and understanding too?
So, if I am worthy of FORGIVENESS are not my enemies worthy of FORGIVENESS TOO?
Forgiveness is like the pebble when thrown into the pond. Its ripples reach out in ever widening circles reaching things that we do not know about or even think exist! When you think of forgiving those who have hurt you it can seem an impossible thing to do, especially if the hurt that has been done to you has destroyed you or those that you love.
But, it must be done!
It must be done, if not for those who have hurt you it must be done for you!
You will ask, ‘How can this be done?’
When you think of those who harm others, either through words and actions of deceit or through words and actions of violence,
You will ask, ‘How can one FORGIVE?’
That is such a hard question to answer! And, I do not have any of the answers as they can only be found within your OWN SELF!
Yes, each of us has to find a way! Our OWN WAY of coping with and releasing personal hurt and pain and FORGIVE!
But,  to be able to release the hurt, pain and resentment a conscious choice must be made to FORGIVE and FORGIVE fully with sincerity and in all honesty!
"I forgive you"
Say these words, write them down and put the name of the person who has harmed you with it too… even if it is yourself!.
YES, write down ALL the hurts, pain and resentments that you have suffered and say OUT ALOUD, "I RELEASE YOU AND LET YOU GO.”
Then, burn the paper and let it go!
All I know is that resentment grows into hatred and hatred grows into vengeance and VENGEANCE DESTROYS so...
To all those who do, or have done, you harm or speak ill of you show FORGIVENESS:
To all those who wish, or have wished, you ill show COMPASSION:
As to the life and soul of those who FORGIVE, it is a BALM.
So, if FORGIVENESS is a BALM to OUR OWN life and soul, how do we know what FORGIVENESS does to the ONE WHO IS FORGIVEN!
Dear Friends
I know from personal experience what forgiveness does to the spirit and soul - the burden of hatred, resentment and vengeance eats up any humanity that exists within you and sadly grows heavier and heavier each day it survives. To forgive is not easy but forgiveness, if done, releases a soul, your OWN, and then... only then can you live a life that can move on, find contentment and happiness.
take care my friends and FORGIVE as it is the path to freedom...!
Ruth

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