Sunday 21 June 2015

The Three C's of Life - CHOICES, CHANCES and CHANGES

What is LIFE?

This is a question that has been asked from the beginning of time...
 and we all ask it, 
but...
 who among us can REALLY answer in a way that explains JUST what it is?
Yes...
LIFE is physical...
it is mental...
it is spiritual and...
it is being alive - feeling sensations, hearing, seeing and thinking, 
but....,
LIFE is also a journey...
a DESTINATION!

It is OUR DESTINATION! 

From the day each of us are born to the day we pass over we are travelling on a JOURNEY... 
to reach OUR OWN DESTINATION!

Where to?
With Whom?
How long?

None of us know....
 not even our parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, teachers, partners, colleagues or even strangers
can tell us where we each are heading...!

Sure, we are INFLUENCED by our upbringing, culture, ethnicity, religion, society.... and...by others, 
but...
 no one can tell us where we are going or what our JOURNEY will ENTAIL - they do not know our DESTINATION, in fact...
WE OURSELVES do not even know!

LIFE is a JOURNEY...
a DESTINATION
but...
it is also JOURNEY of DISCOVERY too!

YOU are the TRAVELER as you travel the JOURNEY OF LIFE -
YOU make the CHOICES - 
YOU take the CHANCES
YOU live the CHANGES! 

You are not born a winner, you are not born a loser but you are born a CHOOSER!
so...
TAKE a CHANCE, and...
 CHOOSE to be HAPPY no matter what... 
CHOOSE to make those DECISIONS that fulfill you and make your life GOOD!

 LIFE and CIRCUMSTANCES can dictate:
 how you feel...
what you do...
your thoughts and feelings,
but...
IT IS UP TO YOU TOO!
so...
CHOOSE  to make your OWN JOURNEY one of PURPOSE... POWER...STRENGTH!
 CHOOSE and take the CHANCE to CHANGE what needs CHANGING!

You must make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change
(Michael Baisden)

My friends
If contrary winds blow strong in your face, go forward never turning back instead...
continue to press forwards...
onwards and...
upwards as...
you do not need to have a lot of might to be victorious!

Your life is a JOURNEY, a DESTINATION... but in the travelling YOU, 
Yes...
YOU have the CHOICE to take the CHANCES to make those CHANGES that are necessary to live the best life possible for YOU!

May peace and stillness be with you in your journey, Ruth



Thursday 11 June 2015

Challenge Your Thought Patterns Today!

 Look at yourself and what do you really see...?
What do you think of yourself and do you know who you are... ?

We see ourselves one way but our loved ones and friends see us another way...
Which is the real you?

Disappointments and happenings can often take us down a path that we would not have chosen for ourselves.
Dreams and desires can be lost in a maelstrom of chaos where our AUTHENTIC SELF can get overwhelmed and buried.
Life and events can threaten to sweep us away and we lose sight of who we really are and...
we form negative tapes -
we begin to judge ourselves...
we fall into negative patterns resulting in...
 negative thoughts...
negative self talk and...
negative beliefs about ourselves -
some of these may have laid dormant but emerge due to a build up of  current circumstances and...
some we form as we become buffeted by the storms of life.

Do we play act through life with a false attitude and image hiding the hurt behind a wall...
covering up how we feel and who we really are?
There are a lot of different ways of covering up your feelings such as becoming ...
Aggressive and loud...
Do you bluster and bully your way through life?
Are you a doormat or a cowering mouse...
Do you accept other people's treatment of you, never fighting back and standing up for yourself?
Do you push your way through to the front or do you creep in and sit at the back?

How do you cover up and...
just what are your negative tapes?

Do you even know?
If not please sit down with a pen and paper in your hand and start to think about them...
start to challenge them as...
These negative tapes, which if not recognized and chagllenged, will stunt our growth because...
The experiences we go through and what we put into our mind help form:-
The ideals that we have...
the judgments that we make and...
the value that we place upon ourselves, as human beings.

Sadly many of these are filled with incorrect data - DATA that are just OPINIONS...
OPINIONS we form about ourselves and NOT TRUE FACTS! 

YES -  they are NOT TRUE FACTS ABOUT OURSELVES and WHO we REALLY ARE!
INSTEAD...
they are just OPINIONS that enable us to set up all sorts of BARRIERS for ourselves based upon INCORRECT DATA - DATA that is  PERCEIVED and NOT REAL!

Our THOUGHT PATTERNS and SELF TALK help form our BELIEFS, and...
 are two of the most important things that dictate our BEHAVIOUR...!
These are in turn reflected in each other and thus forms a CYCLE which goes round-and-round!

BEHAVIOUR-BELIEF - BEHAVIOUR - BELIEF - BEHAVIOUR...

This never ending CYCLE forces us into a CIRCLE of THINKING PATTERNS which,
if filled with NEGATIVITY,
 leads us into LOW SELF ESTEEM which...
 in turn feeds the CYCLE - with NEGATIVE FOOD!

Do you want to live your life in this way?
Do you want to be controlled by your NEGATIVE TAPES?
Do you want to live your life not doing things that you are capable of...?
Do you want to live your life behind a wall...?
Do you really want to continue going through life FOOLING yourself by PERCEIVED OPINIONS and...
NOT living it through REAL FACTS?

ASK YOURSELF TODAY?
DECIDE!
Is it AUTHENTICITY AND REAL FACTS or...
is it NEGATIVE TAPES and PERCEIVED OPINIONS that you want to live by?
DECIDE TODAY!

CHALLENGE YOUR THOUGHT PATTERNS... NOW!

In truth may I walk and in truth may I live!
Through all the returning seasons may I grow and change -
just as summer turns into spring and spring into autumn and autumn into winter -
may I move and grow with life,
 singing with the birds,
 walking through the trails marked with ferns and trees,
with flowers blooming fresh and snow falling thick.

May I live with truth and let truth lead me...
guide me and help me live my life to the full!

I was born in truth...
let me live in truth and..
finish in truth!

(Ruth Anne Caukwell)



Dear friends
decide today whether you will live by perceived opinions about yourself or in real facts - take some time to look at what you think about yourself and ask yourself some hard questions - do you have NEGATIVE TAPES?  
CHALLENGE YOUR THINKING and DISCOVER a NEW AUTHENTIC YOU!

peace and love be with you, regards Ruth