Family Violence is NOT OKAY!

This is the latest entry in my Inspirational Blog but I have posted on my LinkedIn, Facebook page, Gmail account and Twitter (see below for the links to my accounts) because it is such an important issue that we ALL need to be aware of and is NOT OKAY to have happen to either yourself, your children, a family member, friend, colleague, stranger in fact it is NOT OKAY for ANYONE to suffer from any sort of violence - mental, physical, spiritually...

Today is White Ribbon Day (here in New Zealand) - and many people are standing together in the Cathedral Square to mark the day and raise awareness of FAMILY VIOLENCE....

Stop for a minute and have a thought for all those women and children (and yes there are men too) who are the recipient of violence within their family. 

Wear a white ribbon to 'stand together against violence' today!

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If you yourself are the recipient of family violence make a CHOICE, right now, to step out from the blackness of hurt, pain, power and control.

Yes... it will be hard to step away and seek help but for your own sake (and if you have children their sake as well) CONSIDER your options...

STAY and be brutalized both physically and mentally...

STAY and your life could be over...

STAY and the ripple effect will be enormous for all those involved but -

LEAVE and seek support (there are many organizations who are there to help)...

LEAVE and find out who you deserve to be...

LEAVE and be free...

Do not let FEAR of 'what might happen' or GUILT keep you in a situation that is WRONG and will eventually destroy your physical and mental self and your SOUL! 

Because VIOLENCE is always a POWER game involving:-

fear, guilt, bullying, ownership and CONTROL!

Do not be part of this as you are worth far more!

KNOW THIS and REMEMBER...

Relationships = respect

Relationships = no set roles or rules

Relationships = communication

Relationships = listening

Relationships = working together

Relationships = NO physical PRESSURE but equal CHOICES

Relationships = honesty and truth 

Relationships = kindness, caring and consideration

In total - Relationships = EQUALITY and,

the one word that SUMS up just what a relationship is,
and it is the best word, is... LOVE!

I do not need to be stronger or more capable than you nor,

do I need to prove just who I am to you.

I am a precious soul and a nurturer of life - the one holds who the future and tomorrows of life.

I am a one who is just as important as you but in a different way -

I think,

I feel,

I have aspirations and,

I am alive  just as you, so...

open your eyes and see me for who and what I am.

I am WOMAN!

Have a look at my blog entries on the following:-

1. We all have choices in our lives and many times they are difficult ones but regardless of whether we can make a choice or leave things as they are we are STILL making a choice - a choice to do nothing!

(click below to read about 'The three C's in Life' Choices, Chances and Changes

http://ruanca.blogspot.co.nz/2015/06/the-three-cs-of-life-choices-chances.html

2. We all have fears and often our fears dictate who and what we are and do... of course some fears are 'real' (such as being in physical danger) and some we let loom large in our minds but... to face a fear even though hard will change your life.  If you need to seek advice, help and/or support do so but never ever let anyone put you in a place of FEAR so as to control your life

(Click below to read about 'Facing Your Fears')

http://ruanca.blogspot.co.nz/2015/07/facing-your-fears.html

Both these topics are discussed within my up coming book - "Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey"

My links:

My inspirational blog – RuAnCa http://ruanca.blogspot.co.nz

My twitter - https://twitter.com/ruancaRuth

My inspirational facebook page - www.facebook.com/ruthannecaukwell

 My Gmail - https://plus.google.com/+RuthCaukwellRuAnCa/posts

And my ebooks - http://www.amazon.com/Ruth-Anne-Caukwell/e/

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Are You Ready to Take a Journey with Me!

Wow great news! I received the edited copy of my new book, "Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey", this afternoon, from the publishers.
I just need to check everything okay, send it back and then they will start on the cover so... everything seems to be on track for release sometime in December!!

A reminder that my book will be available through the following distribution channels and will be available as both a large paperback book and an e-book.

 AbeBooks.com
 Amazon.com
 Amazon.ca
 Amazon.co.uk
 BarnesandNoble.com
 Borders.com
 Froogle.com
 Target.com
 Waterstones.com
 WHSmith.com
 Bertram Books
 BookManager/TitleWave/PubStock
 Nielsen BookData
 Gardners Books
 Ingram in the US
 Phoenix in AU

Book Endorsements:
Read what others say about, “Musings of a Blogger – Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life’s Journey!”

“I just finished reading Ruth Caukwell's new book, Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey. Let me just say, if you have been struggling in your life, unsure how to identify and break free of the ‘baggage’ that's been holding you back, then you have to pick up a copy of Ruth's book. Not only does she help you identify those obstacles, but helps you crush them with a very simple, yet thorough, step by step process. With a format that is easy to use individually, or along with others, this book will become your go-to resource for any struggles you're experiencing in your life.”
—Rick Sheninger, CEO of One To One Marketing, Author, and Speaker

“It has been proven that true and lasting success is found within the walls of Self-Belief, Self-Confidence and Self-Love! If you're serious about a successful future then read Ruth's book, Musings of a Blogger – Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life’s Journey, and experience a Journey inside those walls that will lead you to a deep happiness that few people will ever find. This book is a true life changer for sure!”
—Dr. Robert Minzak, Successful Entrepreneur, Relationship Marketer and Speaker

“Ruth Caukwell’s book, Musings of a Blogger – Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life’s Journey, encourages you on your journey towards being your authentic self. Full of great advice, this workbook puts the power in your hands to make different choices in thought and behaviour to change your life. As Ruth says, you were not born a winner, nor were you born a loser; you were born a chooser. Choose to read this book.”
—Karen Degen, Author of, “Heightening Your Happiness - How you can develop the skill of enjoying your life”

“I read Ruth’s book, Musings of a Blogger – Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life’s Journey, and was very excited to see this is aimed at the individual who needs to embrace change, to enhance their lives, move outside of their comfort zone and, break through the ‘terror barrier.’ It has often been said that your goal or your dream is on the other side of your fear - this book exemplifies that and goes one step further and, simplifies it! A must read for all those who need to make changes in their direction and live the life of their dreams. Great work, Ruth. God Bless.”
—Bruce Vesey-Brown, Home Based Business Specialist, Independent Jeunesse Distributer

So, if you want to find your Authentic Self... look out for my book (I will keep you posted on it's release) and take a journey alongside me - read my words and work through the workbook, it will change your life!

yes make the Choice to take the Chance to make the Change and step out on your Journey of Life to find out your Authentic Self

My inspirational blog – RuAnCa http://ruanca.blogspot.co.nz

My twitter - https://twitter.com/ruancaRuth

My inspirational facebook page - www.facebook.com/ruthannecaukwell

And my ebooks - http://www.amazon.com/Ruth-Anne-Caukwell/e/

regards Ruth

Silence is Golden... Or Is It?

Silence is Golden... Or Is IT?

'Silence is Golden'

Oh, don't it hurt deep inside

To see someone do something' to her?

Oh, don't it pain to see someone cry?

Oh, and especially when someone is her.

Silence is golden

But my eyes still see.

Silence is golden, golden;

But my eyes still see,

Talkin' is cheap, people follow like sheep

Even though there is nowhere to go.

How could she tell? He deceived her so well.

Pity she'll be the last one to know.

Silence is golden,

But my eyes still see.

Silence is golden, golden;

But my eyes still see.

How many times did she fall for his lies?

Should I tell her, or should I keep cool?

And if I tried, I know she'll say I lied

Mind your business, don't hurt her, you fool.

Silence is golden,

But my eyes' still see.

Silence is golden, golden;

But my eyes still see.

But my eyes' still see.

But my eyes' still see.

Songwriters -Crewe, Bob / Gaudio, Bob

Published by Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

We all remember that beautiful and haunting song 'Silence is Golden' and YES while words can be cheap, deceptive full of lies and hurt, SO too can Silence...!

Yes, Silence can be Golden but there are many times when it is not!
In fact, silence can be down right deadly!

Silence is deadly when it is used in a :

-  passive way and in retaliation as a means of Emotional Blackmail, where the silence expresses anger, displeasure and cuts like a knife.

Silence is deadly when it is used as a:

-  weapon!

A weapon for ignoring a situation or a person or, taking responsibility, facing up to actions or non-action or the fallout of words ...!

This silence fails to acknowledge and hurts... and is often based upon that inability in people to address issues - whether they be based around relationships, work, money, sex, gambling or...

This silence can be so deadly as it can break people... 

The silence is like an ostrich burying its head in the sand... if it keeps its head there too long it will suffocate! 

Silence is deadly when :

-  the listener fails to defend a person against criticism, slander, rumours and character assassination. 

This silence fails to defend... and is often based upon fear of alienation, rejection and taking that step out from the crowd.
This silence is so much more of a betrayal when the listener knows what is being said is, untrue and unwarranted!

Silence is deadly when it results in :

-  people making a decision by default - whether this is an en masse situation or not, the 'silent majority' usually indicates CONSENT - but how often this is silence and NOT consent.
Consent based upon,
fear...
or procrastination...
or apathy instead.
Too late... those who spoke out won and the minority ruled!

There is a time to be silent and a time to speak so...

have the courage of your convictions and break that silence!
Do not let fear guide you as once the moment is past it can never be returned...
Do not let silence be your companion but, instead, be brave and step out with your words...
you could save a relationship, 
stop the hurt, 
make a friend or,
 save a life!
Yes... there is a time to be silent and a time to speak...

Words fill the silence and can be wonderful things but, they can also be deadly -

cruel, hurtful, powerful, controlling and destroy.

Silence can be a wonderful thing but it can also be deadly - 

an empty space where kind words are lacking and instead opens up a void...

a void that is cruel, hurtful, powerful, controlling and destructive.

So, let your words be kind and full of love... 

and when there is silence let it be soft, gentle and full of hope!

inspirational blog – RuAnCa  http://ruanca.blogspot.co.nz

twitter - https://twitter.com/ruancaRuth

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kindest regards

Ruth