Tuesday, 5 April 2016

Family Violence is not okay...!

Family Violence is not okay...!

I am re-posting this blog - which I wrote a few months ago - it is such an important issue that we all need to be aware of and is not okay to have happen to either yourself, your children, a family member, friend, colleague, stranger in fact it is not okay for anyone to suffer from any sort of violence - mental, physical, spiritually...

but first read this very sad and tragic true happening...

A young lady jumped off a cliff with her young child, to their deaths just a few days ago. The reason being that she could not cope any longer from the violence that she was being dealt with in her relationship.   

She probably thought that this was the only way out of her situation!
But if only she had stepped back a moment and realized that yes there are people who care and are there to help...

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If you yourself are the recipient of family violence make a CHOICE, right now, to step out from the blackness of hurt, pain, power and control.
Yes... it will be hard to step away and seek help but for your own sake (and if you have children their sake as well) CONSIDER your options...
STAY and be brutalized both physically and mentally...
STAY and your life could be over...
STAY and the ripple effect will be enormous for all those involved but -
LEAVE and seek support (there are many organizations who are there to help)...
LEAVE and find out who you deserve to be...
LEAVE and be free...
Do not let FEAR of 'what might happen' or GUILT keep you in a situation that is WRONG and will eventually destroy your physical and mental self and your SOUL! 
Because VIOLENCE is always a POWER game involving:-
fear, guilt, bullying, ownership and CONTROL!
Do not be part of this as you are worth far more!
KNOW THIS and REMEMBER...
Relationships = respect
Relationships = no set roles or rules
Relationships = communication
Relationships = listening
Relationships = working together
Relationships = NO physical PRESSURE but equal CHOICES
Relationships = honesty and truth 
Relationships = kindness, caring and consideration
In total - Relationships = EQUALITY and,

the one word that sums up just what a relationship is,
and it is the best word, is... LOVE!

Stop for a minute and have a thought for all those women and children (and yes there are men too) who are the recipient of violence within their family.

We all have a longing to belong, realize our purpose and, worth...
 but for this to come to fruition we must first...
love and respect ourselves and...
 be loved and respected by others!

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Sunday, 3 April 2016

Are You a Damaged Soul?

Are You a Damaged Soul?

Have you been hurt by someone or something?
Are you in turmoil and pain?

Have you been...
- abused physically, emotionally or... both
- bullied... on-line or face-to-face?

Do you feel alone and helpless as....
- you love someone and they do not love you back
- your relationship is in tatters
- you have lost a loved one... a job... a house... money....
- you are suffering an illness?

Is your SOUL hurting so much that you feel you will never recover?
Do you feel that you will never be the same?

Do you walk in a crowd and feel apart.... almost as if you are not there, as people are staring straight through you?

Do you smile and just go through life's motions wearing a MASK to cover your real self up!

If you do...

Do not feel hopeless and afraid as...
you will find an inner strenght, inner peace if you just look for it!

HOW?
WHERE?

"I do not have the courage... the strength"
"I am all alone... I am frightened... I do not know what to do?"
"My hear is broken and my soul despairing!"

Yes... life can be hard... it can be unfair... it can seem worthless!

But... think about it!
Life is unceasing.... 
Life does go on....
Life is full of ripples, ripples of an event, a person, a dream thus that means that.... 
Life is everyone...
Life is YOU!

SO... understand the importance of the now, 
this DAY... HOUR... SECOND... this moment!
Understand that the now is so important as your now is about to become your future and...
your past!

So... let go and look to the next day...hour...second...moment as they will in turn become your future and your past!

Move past the moment and look towards the next and the next!
Live in hope and do not let it go as hope gives you the strength to move on and to know that life will be...
is...
 worth living!

So... do not let those events, people or life overtake you and be patient... positive... as they will pass.
If you need to mourn, mourn!
If you feel able to go forwards on your own - go for it!*
But...
if you need to lean on someone, lean on them!
If you feel that you cannot face overcoming on your own - reach out!
But...
whatever you do do not give up as...

You, your soul is worth it!

If you face those things that make you afraid, hurt you and bring you to your knees,
then fear and negativity will not creep into your life!
They will not live nor fester within your being... your life or your very soul.
They will not poison that little bit of courage you have left but instead...
you will discover that you are far braver than you thought  and be able to overcome!

Remember 

Today it rained!
I sat there and watched the drops falling... falling... and soaking into the earth.
I took a breath and smelt the rain... smelt the lavender and newly mowed grass.
The flowers lifted their heads!
The trees took a sigh and the birds pecked for worms with a renewed spring in their 'step'!
The rain stopped!
A rainbow emerged across the lake... bright and fresh!
It was as though the sky was heralding in a new beginning...
It was offering a gift of love to the earth... a gift for you and I...
it was washing away the sorrows, the pain, the hurt...
it was giving the world a new beginning...
a chance  to live again!



My dear Friends 
know that you are worth it... so live your life and live it to the full! 

Live in HOPE and LOVE
Ruth


* if you find that you are struggling to overcome and feel you need assistance - there are many organizations/hotlines/charities which can help - do not be afraid or... ashamed to ask for help! This is part of coping and moving onto the next moment and when you are ready you can face your moments on your own  - trust yourself and know that you have the strength within you!


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Chapter 7 - 'The asks We Wear' 
Chapter 8 - 'Loneliness and Hope'
Chapter 10 - 'Choices, chances and changes'

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Loneliness and Hope....!

Loneliness and Hope
Many of us have experienced times when we feel lonely, no matter if we are on our own or surrounded by others, and is often brought on due to going through some adversity, pain or sorrow.
Many times when things seem bleak and oh so difficult the loneliness can sometimes fill our whole being but, in every struggle, whether we seem to 'win' or 'lose', if we have that spark of hope, we will be able to overcome as...
Hope can move mountains so live and nurture hope!
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Are you experiencing loneliness and feel hopeless?
If you are do not be discouraged as Hope is innate within all of us, even yourself so...
grasp hold of your innate hope and take a chance to change the way you think and do! 
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Chapter 8 of my inspirational book - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey talks about Loneliness and Hope.
Chapter 18 (part of the workbook) gives you the 'tools' to work through your Loneliness and helps cultivate your Hope!
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In New Zealand:-
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Thursday, 31 March 2016

Have you been Judgmental today....?

Have you been JUDGMENTAL today?

Can you answer that question, is it too hard to admit or are you aware of what you really say?

What does being JUDGMENTAL mean anyway?

According to the Reader's Digest Oxford Complete Word finder (p. 824) the word JUDGE means: form an opinion about; conclude, consider, appraise; act as judge; form a judgement and.... JUDGEMENT means: criticism, censure, disapproval, reproof, condemnation
and ....JUDGMENTAL means: condemning, critical!

All these words imply both a feeling and an assumption about something and someone! 
So... think about your thoughts... what have you thought today?
Think about your opinions... what and who have you formed an opinion about today?
Have they been negative or have they been positive?

Think about this for a moment - 
Being judgmental is when a conclusion is made about a quality of someone or something - we usually make this conclusion on only one quality -
and...
 this dictates what we think or feel about the persons or things whole nature, about ALL their/the other qualities that they/it might have!
So... ultimately the judgment is made only based upon one aspect!

Sadly we are all so quick in labeling, criticizing and making judgments, often without thinking about the hurt or damage, that we can do.
So...

Always look at your moccasin tracks first before you speak of another's faults
(Sauk)

Remember everyone is different and in that difference we are ALL unique*
Remember that we have all been on both sides of JUDGMENT...
the giving of it or the receiving it...
the accused and the accuser!


Beware though...
If you JUDGE are you:-
- are you simply subconsciously expressing your own insecurities
- do you feel inadequate, useless, worthless, hopeless...
- are you letting negativity over-shadow your thoughts, feelings and ultimately your words
- are you envious or jealous of another's qualities... possessions... life style, etc., and feel wanting about your own?
- are you seemingly defending yourself, biting back at hurt that has been done to you?

The list of WHY we JUDGE can go-on-and-on!
There can be many reasons as to why we let ourselves engage in this act...
the act of being judgmental.

Hey... it is okay to have your opinions... there are always two sides to a story and it is within your rights to voice these as they are different from judgments but...
 voicing opinions and being judgmental can be the same thing as well.

If you voice your opinion and it is about someone or something which is completely baseless...
 THAT IS WHEN AN OPINION BECOMES A JUDGMENT!

There is little difference between us all but...
that little difference can make a big difference!

What is that little difference and what about that big difference you ask?

The little difference  is ATTITUDE but...
the big difference is whether that ATTITUDE is POSITIVE or NEGATIVE!

If you find yourself being JUDGMENTAL do not despair! 
Become aware and acknowledge your thoughts and feelings - try to do this before you speak - noting the negativity of this behaviour.
This is the KEY! 

Picture how would your life be different if you started thinking positive thoughts about those people and things that you encounter - 

Let TODAY be the day that you start to:-
 Look for the good... 
the positive in everyone you meet! 
Start consciously respecting differences and... 
People's journey through life and...

Start consciously respecting your difference too!


Do not let yourself be a victim of negative thoughts... remember that they are thoughts not your reality! Do not let them destroy you! Do not let JUDGMENTAL HABITS overtake and bury you within their dark clouds of malice!

We need to realize that everyone marches to their own beat so...
find your own beat and march proudly out of sync with others!


Dear friends

I know how easy it is to JUDGE and there are many reason WHY! But know when it is time to let go and remove all that negativity from your life... let go and become open to love!

Live in peace 
Ruth

Have a look at my blog entry on 'Walking our own way'
http://ruanca.blogspot.co.nz/2015/03/walking-our-own-way.html

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Wednesday, 30 March 2016

Footprints....!

FOOTPRINTS......!

People talk about a CARBON FOOTPRINT
and
'they' talk about a GREEN FOOTPRINT
but
WHO talks about their PERSONAL FOOTPRINTS?

(Ruth Anne Caukwell)


The other day I went for a walk along the beach and a sea gull caught my eye - it was tugging at a huge clump of seaweed dragged up by the tide. 

As I moved closer I noticed the bird's footprints - evenly placed and going in a straight line, heading directly towards where it was now. 

The seagull definitely knew its goal so had gone steadfastly towards it, stepping neatly and decisively while on its journey.

 When I neared the bird it noticed me and immediately started running away - I watched it go and then stopped a little away off .

I stopped too as... something else had caught my eye!

 It was the seagulls FOOTPRINTS!

Instead of being evenly spaced and in a direct line they were now wider apart and deeper, their edges rough and haphazard!

I glanced again at the first set of prints and then again at the second - those where it was running from me and... I realized that they were telling me a story!

These FOOTPRINTS were telling not just a story about a bird at two points of time in its life but...
they were telling me a PERSONAL STORY of how that particular bird felt and acted during each moment!

Its FOOTPRINTS had left their imprint.... not only in time but also on me!

Thinking this I turned around and looked at...
my own footprints in the sand.

They were pretty even and straight, as I had been walking casually whilst making my way to the seaweed...

I knew where I was headed so had made my way there.

I thought for a moment and then started running and jumping before stopping and turning around again.

 WHAT DID I SEE?

My FOOTPRINTS were wider apart and deeper and where I had jumped they cut a very deep groove in the sand!

Wow... I had an aha moment!

I stood there and asked myself...

WHAT did my OWN PERSONAL FOOTPRINTS look like?

Had they been decisive and in a straight line or...

had they meandered through life not knowing where to go?

Had they cut deep and were they full of rough edges?

Had my steps left a positive or negative impression or... a mixture of both?

WHO and WHAT had been affected by my imprints in time?

Impossible questions to answer, as none of us really know:

Who we touch;

How we touch them and;

what is given or taken away as we keep in-step and,
 alongside and...
 past each person who COMES in and either passes through or, stays in our life! 

What about yourself?

What do your personal footprints say about you.....

what do they say about your life...

 ten years ago...

your last year....

your last month and...

your yesterday....?

What will your personal footprints look like from today as you walk into the future of your tomorrow?

What will they say about you as you leave each day and move on towards another?

What do you want them to say?

That choice is yours as only you can dictate your own path and the kind of footprints you leave behind!

Do not dwell on your past footprints as...
they have been washed away by the tide of life!

Do not dwell on whatever imprint they left as...
 they cannot be undone!

Instead....
walk forward and walk tall!

Walk with confident, straight and positive footprints...
and,
leave any deep, rough and negative footprints behind!


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My dear friends
my hope for you all is... as you take each personal footstep, in your journey of life, that they will ...

Face the sun, alive and full of energy...
dance in harmony and love with others...
be courageous,
 and...
reflect  the truth of who you are!


Remember... the manner in which you walk through life  is your most important responsibility,
 as...
the FOOTSTEPS that you leave behind will tell your own personal story1



written in love 
Ruth 


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Saturday, 26 March 2016

Portrait of a Lady...!

Portrait of a Lady...!
Recently I heard a man say that he only knew one woman who was a real lady...!
I was offended, because...
I myself am a real lady who respects her own self worth and acts accordingly!
I know many women who too, are ladies - my mother is definitely one of them and instilled in me the value of having manners; self respect both for myself and others and; to appreciate the difference in everyone and... accept who they are!
Being a true lady is not having money, being beautiful or being the 'belle of the ball'!
Being a true lady is...
 valuing and knowing your self worth and that of others,
having a truthful, kind and gentle spirit and... asking for and giving respect!
These are the attributes of a lady!
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I do not need to be stronger or more capable than you nor,
do I need to prove just who I am to you.
I am a precious soul and a nurturer of life - the one holds who the future and tomorrows of life.
I am a one who is just as important as you but in a different way -
I think,
I feel,
I have aspirations and,
I am alive  just as you, so...
open your eyes and see me for who and what I am.
I am a woman and a LADY too!

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Friday, 25 March 2016

Do you have a dream?

Dreams are for free but in reality they are NOT!
As, belief in yourself, hard work and perseverance are the keys to get you where... you dream to be!
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Do you have a dream?
Do you dream to do something that you have had in your mind for days, months or years even?
So...why have you not done it, what is stopping you?
"I don't know," you might say, "Oh, many things..." or "How can I?"
those self doubters (negative self talk and beliefs) play a part - I am too old, too tired, it is too hard, what's the use, I am not good enough, I do not have the confidence, I am afraid of failure, I do not know how...,
Or is it just 'life' itself that dictates - I do not enough money, not have much education, I have children, my partner/spouse will not let me, I am married, I am a woman/man/teenager, 
There are many things that stop our dreams and yes, many of them are internal beliefs, but, some are just down-right excuses and... yes some are the reality that we are living in!  All these aspects can and do form a part in that which hinders us from carrying out what is essentially part of our being -
If there were no dreams the world be stop as, it is those dreams which become a reality that changes what is and has been!
Yes... I do know about those stoppers* and yes... they have stopped me too!
 Yes... it takes a lot of courage and belief to step out from those internal fears, self-talk and negative tapes!**
And, YES... reality can and does dictate but throughout our journey of life each of us will be faced with obstacles - some real (such as finances), some imagined (such as fears) and some out of your control (society)! Do not let this stop you as within yourself you have the capability of overcoming and, part of that overcoming is the realization that you have CHOICES!***
Choices alter your life even if it is at a 'minute' level! So start believing that you can and will make achieve your dream for each change, and each step (no matter how small) can and will, change your life - if you let it, so...
"Believe in your dreams, believe in your happy ending, for it is in your hands. You are the author of your own story.
Go forth and follow your dreams!' (c)****

'Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey' - takes you on a journey of self discovery! It is a blue print for your life and helps you to realize that you have an inner strength upon which you can free, help it to blossom and ultimately, let it lead you where you want to be in your life, so...
Do you have a dream...?
If so go out and grab it, today, as it is those dreams fulfilled that made our world yesterday and what it is today!
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*   Refer to chapter 2 in 'Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey' - 'The Stoppers in our lives'
**   Refer to chapter 5 in 'Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey' - 'Self-esteem - what are your values?'
*** Refer to chapter 10 in 'Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey' - 'Choices, chances and changes'
**** Quoted from Chapter one of 'Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey'  - 'Do you have a dream?'
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and have the following:-
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