Self Esteem - What Are Your Values?

SELF ESTEEM!

Just what is it?

Self Esteem is the VALUE that we place on OURSELVES !

And, it is that VALUE which determines our ability to experience satisfaction in life - OUR LIFE!

The extent to which we VALUE ourselves is a product of PAST EXPERIENCES...

OUR SUCCESSES and FAILURES (as we perceive them) and...

the SUPPORT and RECOGNITION we receive from others,
especially those who have played an important part, or are significant, in our life and...

it is the SUPPORT, LOVE and RECOGNITION (or maybe lack of it) that we receive in our younger years!

ALL of these aspects influence how and what we feel about ourselves RIGHT NOW -
 it influences our SELF ESTEEM - 
our SELF WORTH and...

our BELIEFS!

We LOVE ourselves:-

 to the extent that we KNOW HOW...

to the extent that we ourselves HAVE BEEN LOVED and...

we are only ABLE TO LOVE OTHERS, to the extent that, WE LOVE OURSELVES!!!

HOW TELLING THIS IS!

SO... 

depending on whatever our SELF ESTEEM - low, medium or high - is,
and...

depending on whatever our SELF VALUE is,
 and...

depending on what our SELF BELIEFS are, 

they all reflect in HOW NEGATIVELY or  POSITIVELY we...

SEE...

THINK and...

TALK to ourselves!

Do you have LIMITING BELIEFS - 
'I'm too young, too old, too fat, to thin. I'm a woman, a man, I'm the wrong culture, too poor, too dumb, do not have the education, I've failed, I've had a bad childhood' and...
the list goes on and on...

Are you holding onto these LIMITING BELIEFS as tightly as you can? 

Are you letting NEGATIVE SELF TALK SABOTAGE YOUR FUTURE?

Are you STUCK because of FEAR, 
or...

do you hide behind a WALL OF HURT with no GATE to get out?

IS THIS YOU?

IF IT IS - THINK ABOUT THESE FOUR ASPECTS -

YOUR - BELIEFS... SELF TALK... FEELINGS... ACTIONS!

All of these are cyclical in nature and...
 one leads to another to another to another!

If you have LIMITING or NEGATIVE BELIEFS, 

your SELF TALK will be LIMITING or NEGATIVE, 
and...

your FEELINGS will be LIMITING or NEGATIVE, 
and...

your ACTIONS will be LIMITING or NEGATIVE!

This will go on-and-on throughout your life - it will ruin your happiness... success,
 and...

 ability to love!

SO INSTEAD...

CONFRONT THAT BELIEF!

CONFRONT THAT SELF TALK!

CONFRONT THAT FEELING,
 and...

CONFRONT THAT ACTION,
 and...

BELIEVE in YOURSELF!

One of the hardest lessons you will learn in life is learning to believe in yourself!

Once you get that you will realize that you are capable of anything!

(Stven Aitchison)

Each of us is a unique being, there is no one else in the world... universe like us so...

YOU...

YES, YOU are very special!

You are a one-of-kind,
 and...
 here in this world NOW, in this TIME and SPACE!

You are here to SHINE in your OWN WAY no matter...

what someone thought about you...

what they said to you...

how they treated you...

in the PAST or NOW!

Do not let FEAR of releasing what you ALREADY KNOW go!

I know that it can be SAFE and COMFORTABLE behind that WALL!

But that WALL has been MADE out of - 

REJECTION...

COMPARISONS...

STEREOTYPES...

INFERIORITY and...

many other negative aspects!

Do not let THESE control your BELIEFS...

SELF TALK...

FEELINGS and...

ACTIONS!

Do not PLAY these things around-and-around in your MIND like a BROKEN RECORD as...

the PERCEPTION that you have of YOURSELF is fully dependent upon all of these!

SO...

CHANGE YOUR OPINION OF YOURSELF, 

do not be AFRAID...

make a GATE in your WALL and...

STEP OUT into LIFE - YOUR LIFE...

YOUR LIFE as it was MEANT to be LIVED!

Dear friends,

I wish you love... grace... hope and the courage to fight - FIGHT for YOUR OWN LIFE as...

You are the creator of your own reality...

and it is through your own BELIEFS, SELF TALK, FEELINGS and ACTIONS that you can live the best life EVER!

Because YOU are the CHOOSER of your THOUGHTS...

SO... 
let those old LIMITING, SELF NEGATIVE BELIEFS, SELF TALK, FEELINGS 
and...
ACTIONS go 
and... 

work towards a happier, more positive YOU!

I know that life does not play by the 'RULES' but in the long run everything will work out so... 

my friends...

GO FORTH IN TRUST AND HOPE OF WHO AND WHAT YOU REALLY ARE!

Do You Have a Dream?

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams!

Live the life you have imagined!

(Goethe)

Do you have a dream?

Have you written it down... 

drawn around it in bright colours or...

written a date besides it?

Is it a concrete dream or just an airy-fairy thought or group of thoughts?

Is life too busy...too stressful...

TO HARD for you so...

 you shove your dream away in the depths of you mind?

Are there too many of life's obstacles in the way - 

too old, too many children, not enough money, no encouragement and...

the list can go on-and-on!

Did you know most people never get what they really truly want out of life - 

because they do not know for sure what it is...

they make excuses...

they let things crowd in...

or...

they lose their dreams within the storms of life!

STOP!

TAKE A MINUTE TO HAVE HOPE!

BE OPTIMISTIC and just,

HANG IN THERE!

TAKE EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE ONE STEP AT A TIME!

Be unwilling to settle for whatever has come or comes your way and ask yourself... 

no....

get to know - by spending time with yourself - what makes your SOUL SING!

What is it that you REALLY TRULY want!

Ask yourself questions - 

'What make me feel the most alive?'

'What were my dreams when I was a child?'

'What would I do if I had the confidence to follow my dreams?'

MAKE A LIST OF QUESTIONS THAT SUIT YOURSELF AND ANSWER THEM!

Do it!

DO IT NOW!

As you unearth... discover and write down your dreams - the ones that make you feel excited... and motivated...

you will become responsive to bring about change in your life so that you can begin...

so that you can make a start to achieving what you want!

START YOUR JOURNEY TO YOUR DREAMS!

'A SMOOTH SEA NEVER MADE A SKILLED MARINER'

(English Proverb)

On every journey within your life obstacles will arise but be determined to make the very best choices that you can - GROW from any difficulties and...

SLAY those demons!

Whether they are REAL - such as lack of finances or,

IMAGINED - such as feeling that you are not worthy of success or,

seemingly OUT OF YOUR CONTROL - such as difficulties breaking into the career of your choice...

have FAITH as there will be a way to break them down and continue with your dream!

Go forth into the days ahead with a STEADFAST  BELIEF and HOPE that things will work out okay!

Count your BLESSINGS!

Climb those LADDERS!

Be STONG and be PATIENT!

Use WISDOM to make those RIGHT CHOICES!

SEEK and SURROUND yourself with the RIGHT PEOPLE for you and your dreams!

Do some SOUL SEARCHING too!

ACKNOWLEDGE what might be holding you back, look at those EXCUSES and...

REALIZE that you have an incredible amount of POWER - it is all in your OWN HANDS when it comes to directing your life!

YES... circumstances and life crowds in...

fear can rule your mind...

procrastination can shape your day...

challenges can arise that will suck you dry...

BUT...

take a deep breath and BREAK THROUGH your FEARS -

CONTINUE on your journey of life... of change...

MOVE TOWARDS those DREAMS...

do not wait for that KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOUR to slay the DRAGON of 

INDECISION and FEAR -

DO IT YOURSELF!

AND

BELIEVE IN YOUR DREAMS...

BELIEVE IN YOUR HAPPY ENDING...

because it is in YOUR HANDS and YOU ARE THE AUTHOR of YOUR OWN STORY!

Dear friends

'THE JOURNEY OF A THOUSAND MILES BEGINS WITH A SINGLE STEP'

(Chinese Proverb)

and

'SUCCESS IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION'

(Anonymous)

so go forth and follow your dreams!

EMBRACE CHANGE!

CHANGE!

Change - what is it... what does it mean?

According to the 'Oxford English Dictionary' change means: to make or become different; to exchange one thing for another or; to move from one to another!

Yes... it is inevitable that CHANGE will occur within our lives and,

when change occurs it can happen in directions that we would never have imagined.

Sometimes...

we can cope with and look forward to CHANGE but,

sometimes...

 it is difficult to deal with, causes conflict  and we dread it!

Change touches us in so many ways and through so many things - 

more than can ever be mentioned here but,

 whether change occurs due to...

 world wide, social, family or personal reasons 

 it depends upon both our circumstances, attitudes and CHOICES,

 as to how much WE let it affect us.

Every change in our lives, 

whether we seem to cope or not,

will however strengthen us for the next to come.

It is not the way of life to live without knowing a storm or two -

and for every struggle -

whether internal or external,

we will experience CHANGE...

CHANGE...

this can either strengthen or defeat!

BUT... 

CHANGE...

CHANGE is good!

 It is good because...

 growth, strength and courage is not won through the absence of conflict - 

whether internal or external, 

it instead comes from the ability to look at and deal with CHANGE!

CHANGE can touch each of us in varying ways - sometimes hardly at all

 but... 

sometimes CHANGE is so personal that our very essence itself is affected.

The only person each of us is destined to be is the person that WE decide that we want to be and...

how we deal with CHANGES that come within our voyage of life. 

It is our CHOICES, as much as the paths and opportunities, we take or...

ignore...

 that influences the manner with which we deal with CHANGE.

So... 

each day look around and be happy with the CHOICES that you have made in your life 

and,

 the CHANGES that have come from them.

For CHOICES influence CHANGE

and,

CHANGE influences our life so,

EMBRACE CHANGE as,

CHANGE ultimately makes our voyage of life... our voyage of discovery complete - 

it shapes the way it was meant to be for each of us! 

So my dear friends

The real voyage of

discovery lies not

in seeking new landscapes,

but in having new eyes.

(Marcel Proust)