Sunday 22 March 2015

Loss - Overcoming and Living Again

There are many kinds of losses in our lives but none so painful and devastating as the loss of a person, or people we love. For those who have some kind of faith - in God, a higher being or believe in another form of life after death - the belief that they will see their loved one again often can sustain them during this period of mourning, change and readjustment. And for those who believe that death is final, having such things as keep sakes and photographs, etc., plus memories, can be the sustaining force behind overcoming such a loss.

In saying this though coping through such a time in our lives can be a very difficult one, one so painful that we feel that we will never live again - I know as I lost both my father (in his 50's) and my sister (in her 30's) through illness. 

But... even through the pain and suffering, if we believe that our loved ones are with us - and they are: in our memories, thoughts and the legacy they have left behind through how they shaped and influenced our lives - we CAN live again and live a fulfilling, wonderful life!

Here is a beautiful poem written at least fifty years ago (not sure by whom) which I would love to share as it reminds us that even though our loved ones have left us with their passing we can remember them through the beauty that we see around us:

Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep
 
Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow. 
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.  
 
 
It is never easy to overcome our emotions, to believe in life again - to live, laugh, love and be happy - when the person, or people, that we love have left us but if:-
In bleak difficult times
we look to our inner resources.
Then, in these times of conflict,
we will find that we have the ability to deal with that conflict
thus,
we can live in peace!
 
Yes...
sometimes our emotions can become our conflict -
a conflict which can fill our core with:
 grief:
the unfairness,
the hurt,
the betrayal of being left alone...
the sadness,
the guilt and,
the loneliness!
 
Yes...
grief can become our pain 
which, if we let it it, can make us:
bitter,
resentful,
miserable and,
a recluse from life!
 
But...
if you ride out this pain
and keep your loved one in your heart...
your mind...
your memories...
and your soul...
you will eventually find
Hope...
Peace...
Love and...
you will 
Live again!
 
When our eyes cannot find the way
and
the storms of life close in,
although we may lose much,
our love of life
still
runs strongly through out veins.
This helps us climb the difficult path to the top of our mountain!
 
 
So dear friends
If you have suffered a loss of a loved one take heart in the belief that you can and will live again! 
 
so take care and keep your good memories close, share them and talk about them to others - let your loved one live in you!
Ruth 

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