Thursday, 14 April 2016

Are You Running Your True Race...?

Are You Running Your True Race...?
Life is a race that each of us runs but far to often we think, believe and accept that life owes us...
Does Life Owe You?
Have you ever met someone who thinks that life 'owes' them?
I have and I expect that you have too, as.... they are everywhere!!
Are they happy?
No.... and do you know why? It is because they never believe that they get what they deserve:-
- It is always someone else's fault...
- life is unfair - look what she/he has...
- they think that they have been mistreated and the dirty was done on them!
Do you think that life owes you something?
Well, if you do, have a think about it....
Why does life owe any of us any… thing?
Each of us has a reason to be here and even though we did not ask to be born we were... and just because of this very reason we are so, so very important! Each of us are part of the very fabric of the universe... a unique soul to be treasured! Thus we owe it to ourselves to take our OWN LIFE by both hands and run with it...
Take control of whatever situation we find ourselves in and step forwards not in...
blame, guilt, wanting, dissatisfaction and negativity but, instead live in openness, kindness, gratitude, love and a positive spirit
Life is a race that each of us runs.
Life is a challenge and no one is immune from crossing the finish line - coming in first, second, third or last - it really means not a thing.
Life is there for each of us to take and do with what we want... no matter whatever winds or storms that blow our way.
Life can be a joy to be savoured if only you would see... your life is an empty canvas on which to paint your own picture.
What you chose and what I chose is each of our own responsibility so,
Paint what you will yourself, as others, ultimately, CANNOT paint it for you...
Yes life is a race that each of us runs, so... RUN yours now!
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You have a choice to take a chance to make a change and if you choose to, then...
 take a run with me on YOUR OWN JOURNEY OF LIFE!
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Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational thoughts for Your Life's Journey"
Chapter 4: Embrace Changes and chapter 14 of the workbook
Chapter 10: Choices, chances and changes and chapter 20 of the workbook.
'You do not have to stay behind your wall.
You can build a gate instead and go through it'
Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational thoughts for Your Life's Journey (Published in 2016) is available through Balboa Press:-
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Friday, 8 April 2016

Love and Truth - There cannot Be One without The Other!

Love and Truth - There cannot Be One without The Other!

But how difficult is it to pursue LOVE and TRUTH?

Love we all yearn for and Truth we expect but having both together - how difficult is that?
To experience Love with Truth and Truth with Love is a very special thing.
Never settle for Love at the expense of Truth or Truth at the expense of Love,
 as, one is as precious as the other...but together there is:-
 kindness and patience,
happiness and hope,
no jealousy or judgement, nor
no selfishness or cruelty.
 Never let the flame of Love be extinguished by the lack of Truth nor the torch of Truth fade due to the dying out of Love.
One should not be without the other for to have both together is truly what life is about!

Love has a strength that binds all kinds of people together as Love is truly the expression of life.
Truth is a must if we are to live with tolerance, forgiving and in harmony but,
 it is  when we have both Love and Truth mingled and blended together,
that then and only THEN can 'loving one another' be seen in it's truest form!

 My hope for you all that you find not only love and truth - not as separate entities but... blended together as one!
written in love - Ruth
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Tuesday, 5 April 2016

Are You Like a Steam Ship...?

Are You Like a Steam Ship...?

Are you like a steam ship plowing your way through the sea of life?
Do you forge ahead regardless of those around you?
Do people get thrown aside like unwanted scraps, floating... bobbing up and down in the wake and stormy sea that you have left behind?
Do you sail ahead through life leaving a trail of broken lives behind?

Gossip
Innuendo
Jealousy
Lies
Deceit
Stealing
Cheating
Selfishness
Violence ..... this list can go on-and-on!

Are you like this ship sailing full steam ahead through your Journey of Life,
through those crashing waves,
not heeding people's tears, sadness, sorrow and hurt at what you do?

Do you carry on board your ship hurtful ways, cruel words and uncaring attitudes?
Are you immune to the suffering of others or,
just unaware that what you do and say can break a person down and even destroy them?

We all go through times when we are selfish.
We want things for ourselves, both in possessions and the love or attention of others,
but sometimes these,
 attitudes, 
actions, 
words and,
 thinking can snowball without us realizing it.  
Before we know it this part of our life has gained the upper hand and gradually we become someone that we never intended to be!  

Too often we can accept behavior and words that are not OKAY! 
We trick our minds and justify them believing that it is the other person or people who are in the wrong!

STOP!
Yes, stop your engines and just let your ship float for a while... 
take some time out and reflect!
Have a think of what you say, 
do 
and how you treat people.
Would you like to be spoken to and treated as you treat others or would you be aghast at what you do?
This is a question that only you can ask and answer.

At some point in our life we need to stand back and take a look at who we are, how we act and what we say. 
Life has a habit of creeping up on us and just gets too much.
We lose ourselves in the storms around us and how we act becomes a way of self-preservation...
 a way of protection for us. 

Hey that is okay!
Seas calm and the storms pass away though sometimes it leaves your life so very different than it was before.  
It is IN this time that you can start to pick up the pieces..
reflect and grow and learn!

Life is but a series of links and nobody is the whole chain as each one of us is but a link within it.
Take away one of the links and the chain of life becomes broken.
A team is but a number of players and nobody is the whole team as each of us is but a player within it.
Take away one of the players and the game becomes lopsided.
A orchestra is but a group of musicians and nobody is the whole orchestra as each of us is but a musician within the symphony of life. 
Take away one of the musicians and the symphony becomes incomplete!

Yes! We ALL NEED each other!
I need you and you need me!
Regardless of who we are, where we live and what we believe, each of us NEEDS each other!

 So let us join hands and become one within the CIRCLE OF LIFE!


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Family Violence is not okay...!

Family Violence is not okay...!

I am re-posting this blog - which I wrote a few months ago - it is such an important issue that we all need to be aware of and is not okay to have happen to either yourself, your children, a family member, friend, colleague, stranger in fact it is not okay for anyone to suffer from any sort of violence - mental, physical, spiritually...

but first read this very sad and tragic true happening...

A young lady jumped off a cliff with her young child, to their deaths just a few days ago. The reason being that she could not cope any longer from the violence that she was being dealt with in her relationship.   

She probably thought that this was the only way out of her situation!
But if only she had stepped back a moment and realized that yes there are people who care and are there to help...

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If you yourself are the recipient of family violence make a CHOICE, right now, to step out from the blackness of hurt, pain, power and control.
Yes... it will be hard to step away and seek help but for your own sake (and if you have children their sake as well) CONSIDER your options...
STAY and be brutalized both physically and mentally...
STAY and your life could be over...
STAY and the ripple effect will be enormous for all those involved but -
LEAVE and seek support (there are many organizations who are there to help)...
LEAVE and find out who you deserve to be...
LEAVE and be free...
Do not let FEAR of 'what might happen' or GUILT keep you in a situation that is WRONG and will eventually destroy your physical and mental self and your SOUL! 
Because VIOLENCE is always a POWER game involving:-
fear, guilt, bullying, ownership and CONTROL!
Do not be part of this as you are worth far more!
KNOW THIS and REMEMBER...
Relationships = respect
Relationships = no set roles or rules
Relationships = communication
Relationships = listening
Relationships = working together
Relationships = NO physical PRESSURE but equal CHOICES
Relationships = honesty and truth 
Relationships = kindness, caring and consideration
In total - Relationships = EQUALITY and,

the one word that sums up just what a relationship is,
and it is the best word, is... LOVE!

Stop for a minute and have a thought for all those women and children (and yes there are men too) who are the recipient of violence within their family.

We all have a longing to belong, realize our purpose and, worth...
 but for this to come to fruition we must first...
love and respect ourselves and...
 be loved and respected by others!

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My first inspirational book - 'Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey', (Published in 2016) is available through Balboa Press:-
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Sunday, 3 April 2016

Are You a Damaged Soul?

Are You a Damaged Soul?

Have you been hurt by someone or something?
Are you in turmoil and pain?

Have you been...
- abused physically, emotionally or... both
- bullied... on-line or face-to-face?

Do you feel alone and helpless as....
- you love someone and they do not love you back
- your relationship is in tatters
- you have lost a loved one... a job... a house... money....
- you are suffering an illness?

Is your SOUL hurting so much that you feel you will never recover?
Do you feel that you will never be the same?

Do you walk in a crowd and feel apart.... almost as if you are not there, as people are staring straight through you?

Do you smile and just go through life's motions wearing a MASK to cover your real self up!

If you do...

Do not feel hopeless and afraid as...
you will find an inner strenght, inner peace if you just look for it!

HOW?
WHERE?

"I do not have the courage... the strength"
"I am all alone... I am frightened... I do not know what to do?"
"My hear is broken and my soul despairing!"

Yes... life can be hard... it can be unfair... it can seem worthless!

But... think about it!
Life is unceasing.... 
Life does go on....
Life is full of ripples, ripples of an event, a person, a dream thus that means that.... 
Life is everyone...
Life is YOU!

SO... understand the importance of the now, 
this DAY... HOUR... SECOND... this moment!
Understand that the now is so important as your now is about to become your future and...
your past!

So... let go and look to the next day...hour...second...moment as they will in turn become your future and your past!

Move past the moment and look towards the next and the next!
Live in hope and do not let it go as hope gives you the strength to move on and to know that life will be...
is...
 worth living!

So... do not let those events, people or life overtake you and be patient... positive... as they will pass.
If you need to mourn, mourn!
If you feel able to go forwards on your own - go for it!*
But...
if you need to lean on someone, lean on them!
If you feel that you cannot face overcoming on your own - reach out!
But...
whatever you do do not give up as...

You, your soul is worth it!

If you face those things that make you afraid, hurt you and bring you to your knees,
then fear and negativity will not creep into your life!
They will not live nor fester within your being... your life or your very soul.
They will not poison that little bit of courage you have left but instead...
you will discover that you are far braver than you thought  and be able to overcome!

Remember 

Today it rained!
I sat there and watched the drops falling... falling... and soaking into the earth.
I took a breath and smelt the rain... smelt the lavender and newly mowed grass.
The flowers lifted their heads!
The trees took a sigh and the birds pecked for worms with a renewed spring in their 'step'!
The rain stopped!
A rainbow emerged across the lake... bright and fresh!
It was as though the sky was heralding in a new beginning...
It was offering a gift of love to the earth... a gift for you and I...
it was washing away the sorrows, the pain, the hurt...
it was giving the world a new beginning...
a chance  to live again!



My dear Friends 
know that you are worth it... so live your life and live it to the full! 

Live in HOPE and LOVE
Ruth


* if you find that you are struggling to overcome and feel you need assistance - there are many organizations/hotlines/charities which can help - do not be afraid or... ashamed to ask for help! This is part of coping and moving onto the next moment and when you are ready you can face your moments on your own  - trust yourself and know that you have the strength within you!


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 a book that will change your life..
a blue print on how to overcome!
Ten chapters of inspirational words and a user friendly workbook to help you search and step out on a journey of overcoming and discovery!

Chapter 7 - 'The asks We Wear' 
Chapter 8 - 'Loneliness and Hope'
Chapter 10 - 'Choices, chances and changes'

My first inspirational book - 'Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey', (Published in 2016) is available through Balboa Press:-
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Loneliness and Hope....!

Loneliness and Hope
Many of us have experienced times when we feel lonely, no matter if we are on our own or surrounded by others, and is often brought on due to going through some adversity, pain or sorrow.
Many times when things seem bleak and oh so difficult the loneliness can sometimes fill our whole being but, in every struggle, whether we seem to 'win' or 'lose', if we have that spark of hope, we will be able to overcome as...
Hope can move mountains so live and nurture hope!
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Are you experiencing loneliness and feel hopeless?
If you are do not be discouraged as Hope is innate within all of us, even yourself so...
grasp hold of your innate hope and take a chance to change the way you think and do! 
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Do you want a blue print for life?
Do you want to overcome or just re-think your life?

“Musings of A Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life’s Journey” a inspirational book with 10 chapters of inspirational words and a workbook related to each chapter.
Chapter 8 of my inspirational book - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey talks about Loneliness and Hope.
Chapter 18 (part of the workbook) gives you the 'tools' to work through your Loneliness and helps cultivate your Hope!
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My book can be purchased at numerous on-line stores and in bookstores in New Zealand (currently).
In New Zealand:-
  1. You can purchase a signed copy from the author - Ruth Anne Caukwell -
- contact Ruth on her social media sites (see links below), her website:-http://ruanca.caukwell.com
or send an email to her business email:-
  1. You can purchase from the following New Zealand websites:-
 3. You can purchase from Mark Palmer (Bowen Therapist) at his clinic, Christchurch:- 0800 581 481
  1. Piccadilly Bookshop - Shop 1 Avonhead Mall, Merrin Street, Avonhead, Christchurch:- 64 3 358 4835
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In New Zealand you can NOW loan “Musings of A Blogger” from all Christchurch Libraries and the National Library!
On-line Stores:-
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Thursday, 31 March 2016

Have you been Judgmental today....?

Have you been JUDGMENTAL today?

Can you answer that question, is it too hard to admit or are you aware of what you really say?

What does being JUDGMENTAL mean anyway?

According to the Reader's Digest Oxford Complete Word finder (p. 824) the word JUDGE means: form an opinion about; conclude, consider, appraise; act as judge; form a judgement and.... JUDGEMENT means: criticism, censure, disapproval, reproof, condemnation
and ....JUDGMENTAL means: condemning, critical!

All these words imply both a feeling and an assumption about something and someone! 
So... think about your thoughts... what have you thought today?
Think about your opinions... what and who have you formed an opinion about today?
Have they been negative or have they been positive?

Think about this for a moment - 
Being judgmental is when a conclusion is made about a quality of someone or something - we usually make this conclusion on only one quality -
and...
 this dictates what we think or feel about the persons or things whole nature, about ALL their/the other qualities that they/it might have!
So... ultimately the judgment is made only based upon one aspect!

Sadly we are all so quick in labeling, criticizing and making judgments, often without thinking about the hurt or damage, that we can do.
So...

Always look at your moccasin tracks first before you speak of another's faults
(Sauk)

Remember everyone is different and in that difference we are ALL unique*
Remember that we have all been on both sides of JUDGMENT...
the giving of it or the receiving it...
the accused and the accuser!


Beware though...
If you JUDGE are you:-
- are you simply subconsciously expressing your own insecurities
- do you feel inadequate, useless, worthless, hopeless...
- are you letting negativity over-shadow your thoughts, feelings and ultimately your words
- are you envious or jealous of another's qualities... possessions... life style, etc., and feel wanting about your own?
- are you seemingly defending yourself, biting back at hurt that has been done to you?

The list of WHY we JUDGE can go-on-and-on!
There can be many reasons as to why we let ourselves engage in this act...
the act of being judgmental.

Hey... it is okay to have your opinions... there are always two sides to a story and it is within your rights to voice these as they are different from judgments but...
 voicing opinions and being judgmental can be the same thing as well.

If you voice your opinion and it is about someone or something which is completely baseless...
 THAT IS WHEN AN OPINION BECOMES A JUDGMENT!

There is little difference between us all but...
that little difference can make a big difference!

What is that little difference and what about that big difference you ask?

The little difference  is ATTITUDE but...
the big difference is whether that ATTITUDE is POSITIVE or NEGATIVE!

If you find yourself being JUDGMENTAL do not despair! 
Become aware and acknowledge your thoughts and feelings - try to do this before you speak - noting the negativity of this behaviour.
This is the KEY! 

Picture how would your life be different if you started thinking positive thoughts about those people and things that you encounter - 

Let TODAY be the day that you start to:-
 Look for the good... 
the positive in everyone you meet! 
Start consciously respecting differences and... 
People's journey through life and...

Start consciously respecting your difference too!


Do not let yourself be a victim of negative thoughts... remember that they are thoughts not your reality! Do not let them destroy you! Do not let JUDGMENTAL HABITS overtake and bury you within their dark clouds of malice!

We need to realize that everyone marches to their own beat so...
find your own beat and march proudly out of sync with others!


Dear friends

I know how easy it is to JUDGE and there are many reason WHY! But know when it is time to let go and remove all that negativity from your life... let go and become open to love!

Live in peace 
Ruth

Have a look at my blog entry on 'Walking our own way'
http://ruanca.blogspot.co.nz/2015/03/walking-our-own-way.html

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My first inspirational book - 'Musings of a Blogger - Inspirational Thoughts for Your Life's Journey', (Published in 2016) is available through Balboa Press:-
and Amazon


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